Calm in Korea

So, my little sister called me this week.  I haven’t talked to her in awhile and so it was really nice to do more than message on facebook.  She turns 17 this month, which is when my “threat” over her ends.  I’ve always told her I would castrate any man she was with before she was 17, and she believed me.  However, she admitted to me that she lost “it” 2 months ago.  He seems like a nice-enough guy (although just turned 19 and a college freshman.  I can’t really throw stones about that, though) and they did date about 4 months before.  I have decided that he can keep his junk (for now) and will keep my right of castration in reserve for if he hurts her.  She seems to be rational enough about it; she knows that it is just her first love and that those don’t usually work out well.  She has a good head on her shoulders and promises me that she uses protection every time.  He is supposedly even more concerned with it than she is (probably because he’d be lynched if he got a 16/17 year old pregnant).

Soooo….I’m sending her 6 months worth of birth control from Korea for her birthday and will keep sending it while I’m here since it is over the counter and only 10 bucks a month.  Does this make me a good sister, or just an enabler?

lostmymindinseoul:

So. This is something I have not written about, mostly because I don’t want to think about it. I haven’t told my family because they have big mouths and they’d probably say it was my fault. I haven’t told my friends because I don’t want their pity. But I’m going to write about it because I can’t sleep and I can’t stop thinking about it. A while ago I had a not-so-nice experience with a guy in one of my grad classes. He forced me to do something I did not want to do when we were supposed to be meeting to work on a group project. It happened despite me being super paranoid and having learned in Korea not to put myself in dangerous situations. I told him that I would only meet in the day if none of the other group members were available, and only on campus. I told him repeatedly that I’m asexual, that I wasn’t interested at all when he initially acted flirtatious. After he started getting sketchy, I told him that I wasn’t getting in a car with him, that I wasn’t interested in going to his apartment, that I knew taekwondo, that my family knew where I was, and none of that mattered, and none of that helped and none of that stopped him because when something is hurting me and I’m terrified, I freeze up and wait for it to stop.

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I’m glad you told us and I’m furious at the way you were treated by people who were supposed to help and protect you!  I believe you when you say your family would probably blame you, and that makes me even angrier.  Society has taught us that it is the woman’s fault, we don’t dress right, we lead people on, etc.  But I can’t see you doing anything that would provoke that kind of attack, and even if you had, it is still HIS fault.  You told him you weren’t interested.  That should be the end of the story.  I’m so sorry you had to deal with that.  Also, don’t blame yourself for freezing up.  I am a black belt in TKD, a tomboy, and very aggressive, but I honestly fear that I would have done the same thing.  I will fight to protect others, but not myself, often.  I’m glad you at least went and tried to get help, but your school’s policies on that type of behavior are reprehensible.  Requiring a victim to stand in front of total strangers AND her aggressor in order to accuse him is a system that needs to be scrapped.  I’m glad he is finally gone and I’m sorry that it took another victim for anything to be done about it.

You are right; He is not worthy of forgiveness…

I’ve finally taken the plunge.  I am downloading it now and will use it at the gym tonight.  I’ll probably just do it on the treadmill first, but since it is starting to get warmer I’m planning on finally exploring my area with it.

*crosses fingers*  I hope it is as good as all the hype says!

So, a few days ago, Trouble told me that our TV-watching days may be at an end.  I guess he is seeing someone pretty steadily right now.  She is a Korean, but has lived in the US for awhile.  I guess he said something about going to watch some TV with a friend, and she started asking questions.  He’s like me, he doesn’t hide things.  Well, she really doesn’t like the idea of him watching TV at night with a female.  heh.  I could tell her how pointless that worry would be.  I’ve TRIED to get him interested, and it hasn’t worked.  If he has lived with me for a week and spent all this additional time with me, KNOWING I liked him, and never so much as kissed me…well, I think her relationship is safe.

So, I was a bit worried about this, but he came up tonight to check out my printer since he is thinking about buying the same one from Emart.  We watched the 2 episodes of the season 2 Doctor Who finale.  I asked if he would get in trouble, and he said he just wouldn’t bring it up.  I know him, he won’t lie if directly asked, he just won’t initiate the conversation.  I know I should look at this from the girl’s perspective and think this is wrong, but we aren’t doing anything!  Plus, I really don’t want to loose my friend like I have so many before.  The WORST thing about being a tomboy and having so many male friends is jealous girlfriends.  Girls that think that even if you are just friends before, as soon as the guy has a girl you MUST want him since they want him.  *eyeroll*  I’ve lost many a friend to silly girl friends.  This is also why I tell guys right off the bat that I won’t give up my friends for them.  Hmm…wonder if that is why I don’t have a boyfriend, lol.  Ah well, worth it in my opinion.

Well, I hope he doesn’t get in trouble for hanging out with me, but I’m really glad Trouble came over.  I still like him, but I would hate to lose him as a friend as well. He’s the only coworker I have that I actually spend time with, and I would hate to lose that.